In my conversations with different folks I am always interested in how folks define good sex. I mean what makes it good? And can it be good with multiple partners? Or is it good with one special partner? Do you or your partner have to have a trick bag, you know toys and props, gels and lotions and potions and bells. OK maybe not bells. OK maybe bells after all...whatever.
How do you know if one sex act is better than another. How do you measure or rate good sex vs. bad sex or uninteresting sex? Oh and let's not forget love. Is love inportant to good sex? Or can you just do the deed without it and still call it good sex?
If you have a moment, comment and let us know what makes for good sex. I will post all the comments later in the week. So give some thought and tell us: WHAT MAKES GOOD SEX GOOD?
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Makes me want to get up and cook a full meal from scratch. LOL
I keep coming back for more.
The fact that it's been WELL over ten years since I've SEEN the Brother & he's still the star of all my fantasies! That dere was GOOD LUVIN'! What exactly did he DO? He had the necessary toolage AND he took his TIIIMMMEEE to learn what was in MY tool box;-).
Whew...
Hmmmmm as a young'un I always thought that all sex was good sex, some are just better than the others.
Then I got a little older, a little more jaded and thought that as long as I come, it was good.
Then, all it took was one ni99a. He showed me that good sex was harmonious. As he did his best to please me, listen to my body, and most of all out of the bedroom (or kitchen table, living room floor, against any wall...but i digress) he showed me the very best love possible. At least I thought. When I was woman enough to notice all of that, I wanted to please him, listen to his body, watch it react to my mere presence. I wanted to return the feeling that he was giving me at the same time. It was a different kind of 69. It was because he was into me there was intensity and raw passion. I loved every minute of it.
Then when I was away from him, I was always thinking about it. When I was at work at the fax machine those damn flashbacks would take a sistah out for a moment. I would be embarrassed if someone around me and I had to make up something to explain.
Then I got a little older, and a lot more jaded the past love is a distant but present memory; so now good sex is only if he comes back.
Came back & reread this post & just noticed the LOVE aspect. Hmmm, I have a big heart & have been in LOVE many times (i don't believe that length of time with anyone determines level of LOVE, as I used to think;-). I have loved aspects of the men who were GREAT with me intimately. But, ONE thangs for sure - if I have NO feelings for ya - the sex is AWFUL/just blah...only happened once & I assured myself it'd never happen again.
Did that answer all your questions, Sistah Babz? Now, I wanna "hear" your perspective on this topic u raised;-).
Makes me want to sit in a corner afterwords and suck my thumb!
Can't say I have really had BAD sex. BUT I have noticed that my level of desire for the intended partner definitely contributes to my satisfaction before, during and after the encounter!
So even on those rare occasions with The Wife that we have a "misfire" that could be considered bad sex, it is still good sex to me because it is with her.
Good sex can most definitely be had without love. i have never been in love and I've had some pretty amazing sex. and afterwards i always want some ice cold lemonade. that's the icing on top of the sex cake! lol
Yes of course good sex can be had without love. But I prefer to be in love. Love allows for greater intimacy. It creates a sense of safety for me.
I am a creature of comfort. I like knowing my partner.
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