Sunday, March 7, 2010

"They" say I'm a man

Rather, "they" say I fuck like one.

Having sex is instinctual, as natural as eating when I'm hungry and drinking when I'm thirsty. When did it get all confused with love? When did having sex with someone become equated with loving someone? Love is an emotion and intercourse is the act of procreating.

I have sex when I want to and with whom I want to. Does that make me less of a woman? Does that take away from my intelligence or accomplishments? Does that make me a whore or slut? This is how my sistas get messed, falsely believing if a man has sex with them, he loves them and them alone. Now, this is also my brothas responsibility because they tell untruths to get the pussy.

Men are rewarded for the number of notches on their belt and I'm chastised for mine. Why is there a double standard? Why are men studs and women wanton? Why can't I do what comes natural to every living creature on the planet without fear of societal recrimination? I want a reward for my expertise. If practice makes perfect, then, well you know where I'm going.

I fuck for the pure pleasure of it, not to exert power. Why do women think pussy = power? Why do men think dick = dominance? We are equal partners in providing pleasure to each other, no one greater or lesser than the other.

I remember a girlfriend telling me once, "Men are just using you." And I replied, "No, I'm getting as much pleasure as they are." What's wrong with my way of thinking? Is my thinking askew? If attitude is everything, then mine is fucking fantastic.

I don't fuck like a man. I fuck like Shannon, the wonderfully full-figured, thick lipped, long haired, carmel-colored sista I am.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

I love your post and it's so true about the hypocrisy in society. I always marvel that if a man has lots of sex with different women he is accepted and lauded by his peers as a 'stud' - a positive thing. If a woman does the same then she is labelled a 'slut' - a negative term.

Tiffany said...

Ain't that the truth. All those questions are the same ones I have been asking for years. Why can't we be comfortable with our sexuality to enjoy sex? Great blog!!!

Tiffany
http://liferequiresmorechocolate.blogspot.com/

Shannon said...

Thank you ladies. I'm so sick and tired of the double standard. I want equal rights, equal pay and equal respect for my body and what I do with it.

Anonymous said...

Great Post! I completly agree. As women we too should be able to have sex when we want it and how we want it! Kudos to you!

Splenda said...

i loved the post

Babz Rawls Ivy said...

Way to go! All hail to the QUEEN!

I love it!