A couple of days ago, I posted a poll and a tangent conversation began in the comments on the difference between making love and fucking. Nicki Nicki Tembo suggested, "fucking and making love is like the square/rectangle analogy. A square being a rectangle but a rectangle isn't a square. Making love is fucking but all fucking ain't making love." This is a good answer; it required me to think and I agree with it to an extent.
They are the same physically -- using the strictest definition of heterosexual co-mingling -- dick + pussy = sex, making love, fucking, banging, hittin' it, layin' da pipe, etc. Thus, if they are the same physically, then the difference is either mental or emotional. Ergo, whatever our perceptions of ourselves, our partner or our relationship at the time of the deed allows us to determine whether we are making love or fucking.
Agree, disagree....
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Fucking is a primal force emotionaly and mentally, there is no need to connect with the partner on any level but physical since self gratification is the goal. but because it falls into stalk, chase, conquer it can be a lot more satisfying at times.
Making love is a slow process that allows time for your mind, body, and soul to work in union to reach the goal of connecting with some one elses union on a unforseen plane that creates life time bonds.
Think of it as the difference between barbecuing and slow baking.
Or at least thats my theory on the matter.
yeah like that clnmike...I'd like to add that they can coexist harmoniously in a relationship. For instance the lunch break quickie and/or getting some in the laundry room while the children are preoccupied with homework versus that that is prompted by the am tent in the bed made from his irresistable erection. The latter being unhurried, passionate...
I miss all that. Damnit!
I agree w/ clnmike that making love takes time to develop & involves all senses & emotions.
I disagree that making love is fucking - i don't think they fall in the same parameters at all! If I'm fuckin' a jokah I don't even want a connection with that person - it satisfies a purely physical curiosity & need. Fuckin' is like masturbation - just with a partner.
Now, that i've sampled my share of chocolates - I'm tired of fuckin' around.
HHmmm this is a very delicious conversation.
Clnmike you set the tone and laid out a strong definition. I would be hard pressed to go against anything you said.
Capcity I hear you...loud and clear. But I do think I can forego the emotional pull and get fucked...hard. And not have to have ethearal conversations and witty repartee. In other words, I am in no mood for anything other than primal interaction...
OK, yall gettin' all philosophical up in this bitch!
I say the difference is based on the state of your relationship.
If you are a jump off, you will get fucked If you are a life or long term partner, if on good terms you have the option of being made love to, or getting fucked. If pissed off, mos def a fuck.
Tafari
yea I agree with an earlier comment. When I am angry or pissy, then I fuck. When I am romantic then I make love.
Say something...yea, say it again..lol
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