I do hope everyone enjoyed an extended weekend of relaxation & real intimacy whether sex was part of the equation or not. It goes without saying that here at The Chats we love it when the Tootie's getting turned on & tuned up. Howevah, personally, if my main-brain muscle ain't part of the work-out I'm not that into it.Since I began to focus on the health of The Pussy most of my research has been on the physical. But, my own personal interactions (or recent hiatus from) has been nagging at me (for various reasons;-). I'm now motivated to search for health information on intimacy of the emotional, mental kind. I've been talking to a male friend about this intimacy thang recently and the male-female differences in dealing with intimacy often boggles my mind. I found this statement on the site CyberParent:
"David Schnarch, PhD, in his book Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships writes that a man is more likely to let the relationship suffer to hold on to his sense of self, while a woman is more apt to let her identity suffer to help strengthen the relationship."
Wowww.... How deep (& true) is THAT?! And what can be done to bring us back to a balanced center of intimacy where both parties can hold onto their identities while building a strong relationship? Below are a few links that I found to help answer that question. If you're in a strong, loving relationship - Please share some of your personal tips to help us all achieve an ideal of truly intimate identity confirming love-making!
- Relationships Australia.com has a great article on Achieving Greater Intimacy. (No wonder Ms. Smack is such a hottie - they've got a national relationship website down undah;-).
- WholesomeBalance.com - has a good deal of interesting information.
- Dr. Stevens of California State University Long Beach offers tips on Success & Intimacy.
May we ALL achieve the Love, Sex & true Intimacy we so desire!!
First Tootie Treat: Protect The Pussy Against STDs.Second Tootie Treat: Work Your Walls.
Third Tootie Treat: Keep The Pussy @ Ease.
Fourth Tootie Treat: Silence Iz Golden.
Fifth Tootie Treat: Candy Iz Dandy, but...
Sixth Tootie Treat: Water Does a Body Good.
Seventh Tootie Treat: PlayMates We're Listening.
Eighth Tootie Treat: Snow on The Mtn. & Fire in The Furnace.
Ninth Tootie Treat: U Got 2 Move it Move it!
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3 comments:
Good stuff Sister!
I think most are not willing to see folks for who they are. So often we have preconcieved notions of what intimacy and romantic love and sex ought to be like. But we never take the time to embrace each other's authenticity. Intimacy is about acceptance. About being comfortable in your own skin and allowing that comfort to be shared with another. It is honesty and maturity and trust.
What I know at 45 about intimacy is a lot different than what I thought it was at 25. I know that I do not have to be somethingother than who I am naked and dressed. I know that if it doesn't feel good I am not doing it. I know that I am better over the long term. I am amazing when I get to know you and your body (not you personally Capcity...LOL!) but my lover. That I love the discovery. That once I am totaly in it, I am totally free and uninhibited.
Very thought provoking!
Glad u like that Sistah Babz! Always happy when I can get others to think;-)
do i have to do them in order ? lol
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